Warranted Pride
Last night was tough. About 3:30am, Susan started complaining that her catheter wasn’t working right. This has happened before, so I called the hospice people, who walked me through the process of irrigating a catheter.
So. Now I know how to irrigate a catheter. Which I can add to my recently-acquired skills of:
- Changing sheets while Susan’s still on the bed.
- Knowing the exactly right angle to tilt a cup so that Susan gets a drink, without getting drenched
- Being able to figure out what she wants or needs when she can’t find the right words
- Knowing which meds to give her, and when
- Administering those meds via syringe, quickly and without fuss
- Brushing her teeth softly enough that it doesn’t jostle her head side to side, but vigorously enough that she feels like her teeth are clean
- Waking quickly and being able to clear out mental cobwebs instantly
The thing I’m really proud of, though, is that Susan needs and calls for me several times per day. Not because she wants me to do anything for her, but just because she’s anxious or afraid or confused or lost, and she thinks I’ll be able to help. Really, when she’s like this it’s almost exactly like being trapped in a bad dream for her. Sometimes it’s a full-blown nightmare, and then I give her a shot of Valium.
Often, though, she’s just confused: “Where are we? Can we please go home?” And I’m able to tell her that we are home, and I’m with her and everything’s OK.
And when it works — she calms down and maybe even drifts off to sleep — it is wonderful. I’ve just done the best thing I could be doing right at that moment: I’ve saved my wife, at least for the moment.
I hate everything about cancer and what it’s doing to Susan, but: I am incredibly proud of the things I’ve learned so I can take care of her.
Speaking of Proud
I’m also incredibly proud of my two sons — ages 15 and 13. They come into Susan’s room several times per day and sit down with her, putting their hands on her arm and talking to her for a few minutes. When she tries to talk back, they do their best to understand. When they can’t make it out, they’ve learned to read her face and respond the best they can: “Don’t worry, everything’s taken care of,” or “That sounds good.”
And they tell her they love her every day.
Does that sound like teenage boys to you?
PS: I have received hundreds of comments and email messages, all of them incredibly kind and generous. Thank you.
I realize that many, many of you are new to the site, thanks to tweets from Doug Ulman (LiveStrong CEO), Lance Armstrong and a post from Bike Snob NYC. You may be interested in what happens to a blog’s traffic when linked to by a perfect storm of cycling and cancer-hating heavyweights. Well, it looks like this:
PPS: A lot of you have also asked how you can help. Well, if you mean it, here’s how: Fight cancer. Those of you who who have been tracking this blog know that I am pretty intense in my support of the Lance Armstrong Foundation, because I know firsthand of the good they do and the calibre of people they are. So, if you want to help, join me. Donate here. You’ll be helping people who already have cancer, and you’ll be helping find ways to treat cancer. And that matters to me. Thanks.
Comment by CCN | 07.29.2009 | 7:10 pm
It sounds like you have some pretty great kids who love their mom very much and know just how to care for her. I’m pretty sure they’ve learned it from watching their dad take gentle care of the woman he loves. Praying for your family.
Comment by Philly Jen | 07.29.2009 | 7:11 pm
As co-captain of Team Fatty Philly, I’ll just reiterate:
Please give.
It really, really makes a difference. We’ll be out there on the course making you proud.
= FIGHT LIKE SUSAN =
Comment by Hamish A | 07.29.2009 | 7:12 pm
I’m not at all surprised your Sons turned out the way they have with parents like You & Susan. Pride is well justified.
Prayers & love as always.
Comment by Uphillbattle | 07.29.2009 | 7:12 pm
Elden, You should be proud of yourself, Susan, and the children. You have handled yourself with grace in the face of terrible adversity. I thank you for sharing your journey with us. I’ve learned many important lessons. Prayers for comfort and strength as you continue this journey.
Tg
Comment by Lisa | 07.29.2009 | 7:13 pm
A little more love to you and your family, or a lot after Mr. Armstrong sent out his Tweet… Think of you, Susan and your kiddos 100 times per day. Stay strong. You already Live Strong and we know it. Thank you so much for sharing with all of us.
Comment by Mike D | 07.29.2009 | 7:16 pm
See, we told you you weren’t the kind of person you try to avoid. You and your family are the best kind of people.
My (very close) grandfather passed away two weeks ago from cancer and you have helped me more than you can know.
Comment by Pink | 07.29.2009 | 7:20 pm
Peace, to you and your family.
Prayers, too
Comment by Jen | 07.29.2009 | 7:29 pm
Your boys don’t sound like most teenage boys I know (I mean that in a good way). It must be because of the great parents they have. Peace and strength to all of you.
Comment by MJ | 07.29.2009 | 7:29 pm
You have moved me. Great love to you and your family.
Comment by mom8k | 07.29.2009 | 7:29 pm
Your posts take me back to my Dad’s final days 2 1/2 years ago after a very short run with mesothelioma.
You are doing a good job. I find myself wondering about you and Susan throughout the day, and praying
that God will give you grace, mercy and peace.
Comment by bubbaseadog | 07.29.2009 | 7:35 pm
ive hated cancer ever since it took my mom and my big sister…i miss em and every time i hear the word cancer i cringe cause i know what it can do. you do all you can and its still not enough. you become so frustrated you lash out at love ones for no good reason….you dont want to think on funerals or memorial services you just dont want your loved one to suffer any more. sometime they just wait on your permission to let go…they just get tired.im so sorry elden…. but always win susan
Comment by Julie | 07.29.2009 | 7:35 pm
I check in here hourly…and pray for you and your family every time. I don’t even have the words to say how inspiring you, Susan and your family are to me.
Comment by BouncyTEM | 07.29.2009 | 7:37 pm
The moment I get a few checks into my card, I’m donating. It’s the least I can do to help.
I’m one of your son’s friends and I had been informed about a week ago about the situation. I am so sorry that things have happened to you, but you’re definitely doing the best you can. I know I’d be proud if I was in a similar situation.
Also, yeah, that actually does sound like some teenage boys to me. All the friends I picked in high school were like that and I myself try my best to be as helpful as possible. (There’s already enough bad stuff going on, my time’s better spent trying to help out rather than making it worse)
Your family’s in my thoughts. I hope for the best.
Comment by Tiff | 07.29.2009 | 7:40 pm
You a genuine person who shares your emotional experiences with authenticity. I have no doubt that your children will only benefit from your honesty & pure desires to do the very best for their mum & them.
I doubt you can comprehend the number of “strangers” you have also bolstered with your blog posts. I am one of those strangers & although we’ll never meet, I am privileged & proud to be able to say that I “know” you.
Praying daily for you all.
Comment by VA Biker | 07.29.2009 | 7:41 pm
Elden, you’ve earned the attention you’ve gotten through your great writing and tough perseverance in the face of adversity. That you are able to continue to give Susan such caring comfort at her most troubled state is truly a testament to the love you both share.
Children who are a product of that love can’t go wrong. It’s all good and there are those of us who can continue to learn from you with each passing day and support you and the LAF. Peace to you and your family.
Comment by David 'FredCast' Bernstein | 07.29.2009 | 7:43 pm
You are the father and husband the rest of us can only aspire to be. You inspire me with your strength, courage and devotion to Susan and the kids.
I have followed your journey silently for months, laughing, praying and yes, even crying, along with you. All this time I’ve been hoping and praying that you and your wonderful family would somehow avoid exactly what you’re going through right now.
Please know that there are thousands of others just like me who are sending you love, prayers and thoughts constantly. I think of you, Susan and the kids often throughout the day even though I met you only briefly last year at Interbike. So many others are doing the same and they only know you through your talented writing.
I pray that God will continue to grant you humor, strength and grace, and that he will show your family mercy and peace.
Comment by Marc | 07.29.2009 | 7:47 pm
Elden,
A few weeks ago I participated in a ride from Montreal, Quebec to Quebec City, Quebec. 300km in 2-days that raised $5.8M for cancer research at the Jewish General Hospital in Montreal.
We are doing our part to support this important cause and thanks to organisations like Livestrong and others one day we will find a cure for this horrible disease!
Be well and bonne chance!
Ton ami de Montreal,
Marc
Comment by Lisa B in Seattle | 07.29.2009 | 7:47 pm
You are the husband Susan deserves, the best father your boys and girls need, and the best blogger I’ve come across. I read you when you’re funny, when you’re sad, when you’re PO’d (OK, what’s it been, like four times in how many years??), when you’re just managing to hold it together by a thread. You are doing an exceptional job for everyone, and by going on rides with the core team, you’re taking care of yourself as well. This is the worst thing that will happen in your life, and every one of us wishes we could make it stop. In the meantime, I’ll be another person donating more to LiveStrong in Susan’s name (and my sister’s, sadly). Peace, Elden, and live strong.
Comment by eclecticdefined | 07.29.2009 | 7:48 pm
Just found your blog courtesy of one of Lance’s tweets… been reading back through your archives. You’re a terrific writer. Mostly, you’re a terrific husband and dad. You have great kids, to whom I am certain you are a great role model. From this point on I will add you, Susan, and your children to my prayers. My husband’s brother was recently diagnosed with terminal small cell carcinoma. It has metastasized to his liver and bones. We are so thankful for the LAF, and for people like you who blog about their experiences fighting this awful disease. It gives us hope, it gives us support, it lights the way…. thank you. I will now be a regular reader, and hope to eventually read everything you’ve posted. God bless you and your family.
Comment by Tom Fury | 07.29.2009 | 7:50 pm
Eldon, I’m proud of you and your family too. You’re all incredible. You have given your wife and their mother peace and dignity, and shown us all what love really means.
Comment by Sarah | 07.29.2009 | 7:52 pm
Peace, peace and serenity to you and your family.
The sharing you have done on here has touched me as I have not been touched before.
And thanks to Lance for his herculean efforts to stamp out cancer.
You are all heroes.
Much love to your family.
Comment by kelly summers | 07.29.2009 | 7:53 pm
Dear Eldon,
I wrote you an email with lots of advise and concern but I can’t confirm it ever made it to you. I am very poor on this email stuff but I want you to know as I put on the fatty shirt you gave me to feel close to you that I pray individually for you and Susan and we pray for each of you by name in our Stake Presidency, High Council and Stake Bishopric Meeting. Life isn’t fair but we have to go on anyway but I want you to know I am aware of your pain and care for you and your family.
Comment by Tracey | 07.29.2009 | 7:54 pm
A friend of mine has a great way of describing the skills you and your boys are engaging – she calls it the ministry of presence. You aren’t accomplishing any specific task. You won’t be able to look back at the day and say here’s the list of things I accomplished. That’s a hard thing for people to wrap their minds around it this goal oriented world. Your relationship with Susan is one of the most profound examples of real romantic love I have ever had the privilege to bear (cyber) witness to. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I only hope the comments of love and support you receive encourage you half as much as you encourage us with your example. Love wins.
Comment by Sue | 07.29.2009 | 7:59 pm
I stumbled upon your blog recently, and I do not know how to express my feelings about it. My father died of a brain tumor 5 years ago and you describe some of the exact situations that I experienced…I guess it baffles me how similar cancer expresses itself in different people with different types of cancer. I have wanted to leave a comment many days, but have hesitated because I didn’t want to be responsible for taking away one minute of your time with your family…I guess today I am feeling more selfish, ha. I understand when you say that you hate cancer. I get so angry if I let myself think about cancer for too long, I don’t think I have ever hated anything so much! You are truly an inspiration! I so admire your positive outlook! and your courage to share all of this (for so long I couldn’t talk to anyone about my father). I wish you and your family all the best and may God bless.
Comment by jean ray | 07.29.2009 | 8:00 pm
Eldon, you have every right to be proud of the wonderful job you are doing in taking care of Susan. She is so blessed to have you. I can’t tell you how much I feel for what you and your family are going through. I just discovered your blog yesterday through Lance’s tweet, and reading your story brought me to tears. You are a wonderful husband and father. What an example you have set for your children of what love really is. May God be with you in this sad, difficult time.
Comment by Sonoma | 07.29.2009 | 8:02 pm
I find myself thinking of your family every now and then throughout the day. There is not much to say that hasn’t been said already. You’re in the moment with Susan and the boys and that is as much love as one can expect in this life.
Kathy
Comment by K (late to the party) | 07.29.2009 | 8:03 pm
posted the other day that I found you via a link on Boulder report’s tdf liveblog – been reading lots and lots of you since then. (Thus I discovered someone else already posting as K!)
Ditto the previous comments that you’re an amazing writer, husband, and dad. You’re doing an incredible job.
This may be some where in your archives and perhaps all your regular fans know, but if not and if you’re up to it, I would love to know how you and Susan met. You definitely seem to have one of the best love stories I’ve encountered, would love to know how it all started.
Peace to you and yours.
Comment by jenny | 07.29.2009 | 8:06 pm
Praying for your family…especially for your boys today.
Comment by justrun | 07.29.2009 | 8:08 pm
I feel like I know the meaning of love and family moreso from reading your site over the years than from almost anything else in my life. Strength and prayers to all of you.
Comment by Ann | 07.29.2009 | 8:09 pm
You are doing a good job raising your kids and loving your wife. Those skills are things show the kind of man/husband you are. Your family is in my prayers. Blessings to you and Susan.
Comment by annainaspen | 07.29.2009 | 8:10 pm
From everything I have read on your blog your children are just like you.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
LIVESTRONG!
Comment by WheelDancer | 07.29.2009 | 8:11 pm
The kids are clearly a product of their parents both of whom honor us all. Cancer had no idea who it was taking on when it entered your home. I will continue fighting as I can and thank you for the courage to keep up this fight long past the time that mere mortals would have given up.
Thoughts of peace.
Comment by Jenni Laurita | 07.29.2009 | 8:12 pm
Those boys- the apples don’t fall far from the tree
Comment by Ricky-Davy | 07.29.2009 | 8:16 pm
I’ve visited this site for a few years now, there’s no surprise here in Canada that you’ve raised what sound like respectful, caring sons. I send you nothing but my best thoughts. I’ll fly the Fatty colours on tomorrow’s century ride, thinking of your family often.
Is there a way to donate to LAF from paypal?
Comment by NW | 07.29.2009 | 8:19 pm
This was moving. There’s obviously So Much Love in your family.
Comment by Annie | 07.29.2009 | 8:20 pm
You’re right. Your pride is warranted. What a gift you are giving to Susan, just by being there.
Comment by Sarah | 07.29.2009 | 8:22 pm
I found your blog some time ago through the Pioneer Woman’s blog and my heart breaks every time I think about what you and your entire family must be going through.
Your sons’ devotion to their mother is simply your children’s way of walking in the footsteps of their father. I am always touched by your love for Susan and the strength and patience you show not only in everything you do for her, but through your ability to write about it. I have been and will continue to root for Susan!
I will keep Susan, you, and your family in my prayers during this difficult time. LIVESTRONG.
Comment by jwbikes | 07.29.2009 | 8:24 pm
Fatty,
I am not a very religious person, but I have been using all of my limited connection to pray for you and Susan. I think about ya’ll most of the day. Although I can’t check hourly because of work, I certainly do every opportunity. I wish you well and keep up the fight.
WIN SUSAN
Comment by Kay | 07.29.2009 | 8:31 pm
You all sound like you a doing a great job of caring and supporting each other in very difficult times. I am one of those people in your spike following Lance Armstrongs twitter yesterday. I am glad I looked and have read – you all provide so much inspiration. I will continue to give to the Lvestrong organisation and hope that we see Team Radioshack in Adelaide next year to continue the push.
Comment by Clydesteve | 07.29.2009 | 8:41 pm
Elden – Wow! You seriously have developed some mad skilz.Way more important ones than the cycling slills. Blessings and prayers for you.
Comment by Kari | 07.29.2009 | 8:43 pm
Fatty, you expressed in words the ultimate climax of self and family discovery cancer gave my family and me. We realized through this horrible disease and through the strength and power of our survivor (my mother) passing away, how strong, compassionate and capable we were of doing things we never imagined possible. The power of love is amazing, and something like cancer shows you how willing you are to do ANYTHING for someone you love. It’s an incredible gift that Susan and cancer have given you, though we all would hope for a different outcome. I, too, believe strongly that LAF is an amazing organization that directly impacts the lives of cancer survivors and their families. I will be giving in your family’s honor. Thanks for sharing the fight. WIN SUSAN
Comment by John | 07.29.2009 | 8:44 pm
Fatty,
I don’t know if me shedding tears will release strength and send it to you, but I hope it does. Thoughts, prayers, and good kharma from my family to yours.
Comment by Beth | 07.29.2009 | 8:44 pm
Day at a time friend…..
Comment by Ryan | 07.29.2009 | 8:54 pm
Fatty,
From someone who’s in medicine, I’m impressed. Keep it up and stay strong. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Comment by Tracy (Oklahoma) | 07.29.2009 | 8:56 pm
Your entire family is amazing. God Bless you all. Still praying for that miracle.
Comment by Black Rose | 07.29.2009 | 8:59 pm
Think about you and yours every day. just reading your blog gives me a little more strength to continue being the care giver for my son when it feels like we’re in an endless limbo. All my families love and prayers to your family
Comment by Ken | 07.29.2009 | 9:06 pm
Hang in there. This is so hard but you are both so incredibly strong. My heart and thoughts are with you.
Comment by idahorider | 07.29.2009 | 9:15 pm
I have been following your blog for several years. I won’t pretend that I have any idea all that you are going through, but I do understand the feeling of knowing nothing else that you can do, but love your wife. It is painful, and it is beautiful. I have learned a lot from you, thank you.
Comment by Paula | 07.29.2009 | 9:30 pm
peace and love to you and your family
Comment by J. Karlik | 07.29.2009 | 9:30 pm
As I’ve said before, being the husband of someone with cancer is not easy. thankfully, my wife’s cancer both times was caught early and they were able to treat her, but several times it felt like I was the patient. Just remember, your feelings are just that…your feelings. Anger, joy, resentment, fustration, confusion, worry, fear, love, hope — there is no wrong here.
I pray for you and Susan (my mother’s name, by the way) every day and now make this blog one of my top 3 “must see” sites every day.
May God bless you and give you what you need.
Comment by Kristina Carter | 07.29.2009 | 9:36 pm
This is my first time to your site. My Uncle is Rick Maddox. Thank you for sharing. You will be in my prayers.
Comment by Vito | 07.29.2009 | 9:40 pm
Elden…Thanks for sharing yours and Susan’s story. The fact that you can share with the rest of us, so eloquently, what you, Susan, and the children are experiencing is very inspirational. What a wonderful family you have. Please know that my thoughts and prayers go out to you, Susan, and the children.
Keep fighting the good fight and God Bless!
Comment by bobbieh | 07.29.2009 | 9:41 pm
Those boys obviously have great parents ~
Holding you all close ~
Comment by Maile in Florida | 07.29.2009 | 9:46 pm
Eldon, some day in the future when this is not so raw, I’d like to tell you about my dog Skye and thank you. Now is not the time–just want you to know that there are more ways you’ve helped people (and dogs) than you’ll ever believe. Thanks so much! My love to you, Susan, the amazing teenage boys, the twins, and every single one of your support team.
Comment by Charisa | 07.29.2009 | 9:47 pm
Being able to see the good in such an awful time is so wonderful. The fact that you can help Susan and are proud of this is awesome.
Comment by Anonymous | 07.29.2009 | 10:01 pm
Between the efforts of you and Lance, cancer should be whipped within a few years.
And you Elden, have taught an awful lot of people about love, true love. You inspire me!
I tweeted Lance as soon as I read your heart wrenching post from the other day, asking him to send you some Livestrong Love – it got retweeted several times. Don’t know if that was what got Lance to respond or not, but at least know that we are out here trying to get the world to notice! The more positive energy we get flowing your way, the better you and Susan will feel!
@vivavelo
(Jennifer)
Comment by Micheal Green | 07.29.2009 | 10:05 pm
Boo-Ya go Fatty!
Comment by Jenny-Jenny | 07.29.2009 | 10:09 pm
You are an inspiration to me and hundreds of others. Thank you.
Comment by Liberty on Bikes!/bob | 07.29.2009 | 10:14 pm
those were a couple hard posts to read. i think most couldn’t get through without a tear. but it also showed exactly how many people you two touch and to what extent.
Comment by Beth | 07.29.2009 | 10:22 pm
I am sitting here with tears…you have shared so much with us and taught us so much. Your sons have watched you and mirror your selflessness. You are all in my prayers.
Comment by Rich Wielgosz | 07.29.2009 | 10:23 pm
I am one of the many who came here for the first time because of Lance’s tweet. Cancer took my favorite aunt two years ago, and many friends have recently been treated for many kinds of cancer.
I am a cyclist of 25 years and am now a loyal reader of your blog.
Hang in there. Sending the best vibes I possibly can.
Comment by g | 07.29.2009 | 10:49 pm
One of the sweetest memories I have from the time my Grandma was ill with cancer was an hour lying on the bed beside her, the day before she passed away. Every so often she would become agitated and start reaching out with her hands. I would hold her hand and tell her that I was there, and she would grow calm again. May it bring you and your children much comfort now and in the future to know that you are with Susan at this time, helping her pass peacefully and with grace, surrounded by love.
Comment by ricky | 07.29.2009 | 10:54 pm
You have always had incredible tenacity, endurance, and capacity to learn and grow. Now is the time when you need these most. Stay strong and WIN Susan! Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Comment by KanyonKris | 07.29.2009 | 10:59 pm
Forget the business stuff, that bullet list is a REAL resume.
Comment by Weiland | 07.29.2009 | 11:00 pm
On 7/10 I wore my 2009 Fat Cyclist jersey, I’m sure that’s the reason for the spike in traffic that day.
Keep your stick on the ice
Comment by tara | 07.29.2009 | 11:01 pm
Your journey brings back many memories for me and my part in my father’s passing to cancer in 2003. I am happy to hear of your pride and strength in the things you are able to do and provide for your wife – I bet you never thought you’d have to learn how to administer narcotic medications and change bed sheets with a person actually in bed! YOU CAN DO THIS. Continue this process with pride and gratitude and recognition of all that is happening; you will be so thankful and grateful for yourself in the coming months. God bless your children – you and Susan must be amazing parents.
Comment by John Wright | 07.29.2009 | 11:03 pm
Eldon,
I really enjoy reading your blog. You are such a genuine person that I feel like we are good friends. And as such I truly hurt for you, for Susan and for your family. I’ve supported riders in Livestrong events the past few years and will continue to fight with you until the victory is won.
God Bless you and may He strengthen you. And may He strengthen all of us for this fight.
Comment by Tasha | 07.29.2009 | 11:04 pm
And you should be proud of yourself, and of your boys. Their behavior isn’t surprising, given how I imagine you and Susan have raised them – but you’d be surprised, perhaps, at how people can fail to be supportive when someone they know has cancer. Yes, even spouses, though I haven’t experienced that myself. The disappearing friends though? Yes. And many others who’ve been amazing. Point being – you are a stellar human being, Eldon, *I* for one am proud of you, and I join in everyone else in sending many many good thoughts and prayers your and your family’s way…..
Comment by Patty Guinta | 07.29.2009 | 11:10 pm
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. People need to hear your story….We can cure cancer if we all fight together.
Comment by jenjen | 07.29.2009 | 11:41 pm
Elden –
You are Susan should be very proud. Your kids are wonderful. Thinking of you all and praying for you every day.
XOOX
Jen
Comment by courtney | 07.29.2009 | 11:42 pm
You are a good man. :) I was thrilled to see Lance mention you and Susan in a few tweets during the TdF.
Comment by kestrel | 07.30.2009 | 1:23 am
and the pulse of caring, strength and commitment keeps beating on… it will always be that way in you and your children. You’ve taught them how to do it, and we are *all* better for it. You *are* living strong, Elden. Bravo to you all, and much care flowing your way…
Comment by gail | 07.30.2009 | 2:03 am
I am proud of you, too, and of your sons. I send you every good thought, with tears in my eyes.
Comment by Rob | 07.30.2009 | 2:09 am
Your story is a real inspiration and puts so many trivial things in to perspective. Your love for your family and determination to not give up are what it’s all about!! Keep strong….
Rob
Comment by Larry Johnson | 07.30.2009 | 2:47 am
What an abundace of love you have, and such fine sons. As a retired oncology nurse I know how much effort it is to care for a cancer patient, although I also know that tor you it is filled with love. Please have strength and do not lose faith.
Comment by Larry Johnson | 07.30.2009 | 2:50 am
I am a cancer survivor and lost a sister, an aunt and two uncles to cancer. My father also had prostate cancer and was blessed with a 32 year survival. After my mother died, he lived with me until age 97. My surgery was in 1992.
Comment by Mike Roadie | 07.30.2009 | 4:30 am
Ditto.
Love.
Give.
WIN!
Comment by bikemike | 07.30.2009 | 4:42 am
your kids are learning life lessons about caring and compassion that go beyond anything we can imagine. Susan is still teaching her children and you how to be what so much of humanity is missing…what humanity should be.
Elden, you are a truly blessed man.
Comment by Andrea | 07.30.2009 | 4:54 am
Sounds like you and Susan have raised some wonderful children. I’m happy to hear that you are still able to bring Susan comfort.
I was so excited when I saw that Lance, Levi, Doug, had tweeted about you and Susan. And that obnoxious Bike Snob wrote a blog about you.
Susan, you, and your family have impacted so many people.
Comment by Marie | 07.30.2009 | 4:57 am
From the ‘other side of the globe’ I wish you and your family all the strength in the world, I truly admire the strenght you all have. It doesn’t happen very often that I’m almost speachless, but besides wishing you luck I hardly have any words for you all … lots of love, strength and sunshine for all of you from The Netherlands
Comment by George McNally | 07.30.2009 | 5:02 am
Sir, you are a good man.
Comment by Jamieson | 07.30.2009 | 5:33 am
Keep up the good fight, and love every moment you have with Susan.
The love your boys show is indicative of the love that your family has.
Comment by FliesOnly | 07.30.2009 | 5:48 am
Just when I’ve thought I’ve read one of your most touching posts yet, you post another one.
Comment by Peg Stoecklein | 07.30.2009 | 6:14 am
I’m one of those folks who have started reading your site due to Lance and The Bike Snob. I’m now addicted and thinking of you and your wife and kids almost constantly. You are just about the bravest person I have ever *met* and although I have never faced anything in life to match what you are going through, I now have an idea how to handle such a situation when it/if it comes. You’re right there up on *Lance level* when it comes to inspiration. I’ll be thinking of you on every bike ride (I ride a lot) and with every check I send to Lance. Ride on. -peg
Comment by MeganRN | 07.30.2009 | 6:21 am
You are an excellent nurse – you have every right to be proud of yourself and your children. I am a nurse, and I do those things as part of my job, but they’re done for strangers. It takes somebody truly special to find the grace enough to do what needs to be done to take care of someone who is so much a part of themselvs. It may seem like the obvious thing for you to do, but I can tell you from experience that not everyone has that kind of strength. I am proud of you. May God’s grace be with you and your family!
Comment by Bridget | 07.30.2009 | 6:21 am
You are a wonderful husband and father. I’m sure Susan is proud of you and the children. Love will make her journey peaceful.
Comment by JoDee | 07.30.2009 | 6:33 am
Your boys are awesome!! Doesn’t sound like they’re teenage boys, sounds like they are young gentleman. I have always heard people say there is nothing like a mother/son relationship. God Bless your boys, your girls, you and Susan.
Comment by PennyPue | 07.30.2009 | 6:38 am
Those boys are going to grow to be amazing men. They have a great role model and are well on their way.
Comment by Yukirin Boy | 07.30.2009 | 6:40 am
Warranted pride indeed!
You have every reason to be proud, of Susan, of your children, of your friends, and of course, of yourself.
Great post.
Comment by c3 | 07.30.2009 | 6:54 am
Thank you for sharing this. G-d Bless!
Comment by Suzanne | 07.30.2009 | 7:00 am
Sending you more good thoughts and prayers and wishing you continued strength. The boys clearly know what to say and how to be gentle when it’s most needed. Pride can’t even begin to describe what you must feel.
Comment by CeeCee | 07.30.2009 | 7:01 am
Continued prayers of peace.
I’m so glad you’ve found ways to help Susan and not feel so helpless in this battle. Her soul knows what you’re doing.
Very proud of your sons—many/most kids would do everything they could to avoid the situation. It’s just too sad and scary. You and Susan have raised fine young men.
Comment by Paula Kirsch | 07.30.2009 | 7:07 am
Donation made, and my husband, who is a cyclist, also rode the “Ride for Roswell” (a world famed cancer research center here in WNY) and so I guess we have done what we can for you and Susan Fatty. Wish there was more. Right now I want to thank you again for sharing this with the world. You don’t know how many people you have helped with your honesty about your life with Susan. It’s a very courageous thing to do.
Paula
Comment by Katie | 07.30.2009 | 7:55 am
You and Susan have obviously done an amazing job with your children. I admire the strength your family continues to exhibit every day. Keep fighting.
Comment by Boz | 07.30.2009 | 8:05 am
My best friends daughter is an RN in hospice care. It takes a special person to handle that. Elden, you are one of those special people. My hat is off to you.
Live strong and win.
Boz
Comment by Donna Tocci | 07.30.2009 | 8:14 am
Eldon – you are a phenomenal man…and you are raising phenomenal sons. Susan must be so proud of you all. And, yes, I am a longtime supporter of the LAF…they do good work.
Comment by Canadian Roadie | 07.30.2009 | 8:16 am
Your family is so amazing and strong. Your boys will grow to be great men and they will have their parents to thank. I’m so proud of you and would love for one day to finally meet you.
To all the readers out there: DONATE NOW. The original goal was to raise at least $500,000 and that goal is so close. Let’s make it a reality.
Comment by emily | 07.30.2009 | 8:28 am
cancer sucks, I am sorry that you and your family have to go through this. I was there with my mom, and your posts take me back to those days. They were horrible, wonderful, frustrating, frightening and in the end some of the most cherished moments with my mom.
Your family is in my thoughts.
Comment by Justin | 07.30.2009 | 8:34 am
You have every right to feel proud. You have an incredibly strong, a wonderful family.
Comment by Carl | 07.30.2009 | 8:45 am
We are all really proud of you guys for the way you are taking care of Susan and don’t think that she doesn’t know it too even though she may not be able to say it.
Comment by kiwi | 07.30.2009 | 8:47 am
Good People have Great kids…
Kiwi
Comment by Christina | 07.30.2009 | 8:50 am
You are in many people’s thoughts. You have forever changed many lives with your stories and what you are going through.
Comment by DeborahB | 07.30.2009 | 8:55 am
Just made a donation. Your boys sound awesome, just like you. Wish I could do more. Continued prayers for you and Susan are flying up right now.
Comment by "Miles" | 07.30.2009 | 8:59 am
I am moved by your strength.
Comment by Leslie | 07.30.2009 | 9:11 am
Yay for these rays of light!
Comment by Rose | 07.30.2009 | 9:11 am
Fatty,
You should be proud! Proud of yourself and your boys. I am proud of you for all you have done to raise money to fight cancer. It blows my mind how much one person can do. Great job!
Comment by ThadS | 07.30.2009 | 9:20 am
I wish you and your family the world. I have my own live strong team, and you, and your family will be on my mind along with my mother.
Comment by Kristin | 07.30.2009 | 9:21 am
Fatty, new to this site, I’m an avid cyclist and close cycling friends with one of your intimate followers and fans. I’m losing my house and out of work so I can’t give $$, but can send great clouds of positive hope and joy to you both. Most people never get to experience what your family has … big, big love. Your ‘6 minutes of pure joy’ lit up my life at this end! You still have that in you, so never EVER lose it. I have that ‘joy’ in bad times (and all times) and know every day it’s a giant gift. You are a light for your family and clearly for all of us out here. We’re all there with you!!!
Comment by Rita | 07.30.2009 | 9:21 am
No surprise about those boys of yours, look at the tree those apples fell from. Give yourself and Susan those pats on the back you merit hugely. It gives me lovechills to know that you get to see it in action.
Comment by MOCougFan | 07.30.2009 | 9:23 am
I’m impressed by your fathering and husbanding skills. Well done brother. Best to you brother.
Comment by Clay | 07.30.2009 | 9:24 am
I think you’re doing a great job with this situation (been there myself). Anyway, here’s another donation to LAF. Stay tough.
Comment by Kathy McElhaney | 07.30.2009 | 9:25 am
Lots of reasons to be proud and no time for “if onlys”. Y’all are doing great in this distressful time. You and Susan have prepared your boys as best you can and they are responding with incredible love.
The spike in blog hits means a spike in prayers on behalf of your family!!
Comment by Greg | 07.30.2009 | 9:26 am
Fatty,
Thank you for your determination and courage to fight Cancer! Cancer took both my mother(73) and my wife(31) from this world in 2007. There are many who understand. You have our love and our prayers.
Comment by Onan the Barbarian | 07.30.2009 | 9:29 am
“On 7/10 I wore my 2009 Fat Cyclist jersey, I’m sure that’s the reason for the spike in traffic that day.”
Oddly enough, I ALWAYS rock a Fatty jersey on my rides. I get the occasional thumbs-up and honks, but then again, I live about a mile from Twin Six.
“Keep your stick on the ice”
I also play hockey when not on my bike…go figure.
Maybe a “Fatty” hockey jersey should be offered.
Stay strong, Fatty and my thoughts go out to the Nelson family as a whole.
Comment by Sonja O'Brien | 07.30.2009 | 9:31 am
Your doing a great job! My thoughts and prayers are with you throughout each and every day. Stay strong.
Comment by Aaron | 07.30.2009 | 9:35 am
You’re proof that kids learn by example.
Comment by George G. | 07.30.2009 | 9:42 am
Elden,
I hope to get the chance to meet you some day to shake your hand.
I have been following your blog for over a year, but not one to leave comments. What you have done to raise awareness along with the incredible amount of donations for the LIVESTRONG foundation is out of this world.
Oh, and your videos are great, that is, when you remember to change the batteries or take the lens cap off.
Your words and sharing of your family bring back the experiences I had with my father and a close friend dealing with the ugliness of cancer. You have touched many people around the globe with your special gift, strength, and openness.
Reading the experiences you share, propels me more, to both, train and raise funds for the Philly LIVESTRONG challenge in August.
Susan, along with you and your children have been, and will continue to be in my prayers.
Comment by Cyclin' Missy | 07.30.2009 | 9:42 am
You absolutely should be proud – of yourself and your kids. Nice work! You are one of the most caring families I’ve seen. Ever.
Comment by Steve Courtright | 07.30.2009 | 9:54 am
El – the apple(s) don’t fall far from the tree. Keep on.
Comment by Heidi | 07.30.2009 | 9:55 am
You rock.
Comment by Gibbles T. Chimp | 07.30.2009 | 10:01 am
Your blog has helped rekindle my love of cycling Fatty. I’ve been riding much, much more and having recently moved to a new, very bike friendly city (Chicago) my love continues to grow.
Currently unemployed, but as soon as I get a job (Any hiring managers for IT in Chicago reading? :D ) I plan on donating.
Your love for your family, life and cycling shines in every post. At times the blog is hard to read. So heartbreaking.
Stay strong. Live Strong.
With love and respect,
Gibbles
Comment by tim doust | 07.30.2009 | 10:09 am
you are a top example of a husband and father………you all really are in my prayers every day
god bless you all
Comment by Bruce | 07.30.2009 | 10:29 am
Love and prayers to your family — what great boys!
Working in Mid-Missouri to organize a fall Livestrong fundraiser bike ride.
bpw
Comment by KT | 07.30.2009 | 10:30 am
Hi Fatty,
I just wanted to mention that I started reading your blog after Levi tweeted about it a couple of weeks ago and I’m hooked!
Thank you for sharing your life with us.
-Krystine
Comment by Stephanie | 07.30.2009 | 10:46 am
I’ve followed your blog for about a year. I don’t know a thing about cycling, other than generally, you all have great legs. What captured me was you, your precious family, and this horrendous battle you’re all fighting. What an outstanding picture of the men your boys will become. I know you and Susan are so proud. If I’m ever in this battle, I will FIGHT LIKE SUSAN.
~ Stephanie
Comment by kat | 07.30.2009 | 10:54 am
I to found your blog thru Lance’s twitter. The thing that is so amazing is how you touch us with your wonderful honesty. You’re helping all of us realize what is important, your wife, your family, your humanity. Thank you.
Comment by Patrick Coleman | 07.30.2009 | 11:23 am
I’m following you because of those cancer hating cycling heavyweights. Your family’s love for each other is beautiful to learn about during such a tragic time. You, Susan, your children, they are in my thoughts. By sharing your life, you are definitely inspiring people to hate cancer even more, and something good will come from this awful prize being paid by your family.
Comment by Patrick Coleman | 07.30.2009 | 11:24 am
I’m sorry, I meant to write awful price being paid by your family. There are no prizes here.
Comment by Mike | 07.30.2009 | 11:27 am
I know how crazy cancer can be, my brother has recently kicked some ass against Ewing’s Sarcoma. He gave up some of his leg only to be replaced by titanium but he’s getting better and stronger every day. You are truly a Saint for what you do and for being a pillar of strength for your family and especially your sons. Keep fighting the good fight and always remember that cancer can take a lot away from people but it can never take the spirit your wife once had. That spirit should live inside you and your boys as long as you are walking this Earth.
Comment by Carmen | 07.30.2009 | 12:14 pm
Just discovered your blog, and I have to say you are the most incredible person I’ve come across in a long time. I mean that. You are an inspiration to so many, myself included. I know just a few days ago you said you hated the person you had become, but it’s more than okay to be angry and upset. Lean on your friends for support, they will help you. I am praying for your family, and wish you all peace during these difficult days.
Comment by jan | 07.30.2009 | 12:31 pm
Elden,
I made my way to your blog as a result of Lance’s comment yesterday. I was curious — who the heck is “fat cyclist”? Well, I read and I read and I read. I actually went back to the beginning and read all the way through (yes, I’m retired). You are one talented writer — you really have a way with words.
I laughed out loud quite and bit and found myself in tears as well. I also found myself saying, “yeah, I’ve been there”. Especially the despair stage during a ride…I, too, say some pretty nasty things to myself at those times and use the “only 5 more miles” mantra.
What a journey you are on — your chronicle will provide your children with tremendous insight to the love you and Susan share. It’s a wonderful gift.
Like those before me, I found myself thinking of you and your family many times throughout the day. It made me wonder about how many people are out there with illnesses that have taken them from the people, places and things they love. What courage it takes for Susan, you, your family and friends.
I will keep you in my prayers. Win Susan.
Comment by erinonwater | 07.30.2009 | 12:53 pm
I am one of those people who found your blog via Lance Armstrong’s tweets. Our hearts and prayers go to you, your family, and your hospice team. I wish wish wish we could donate to Livestrong, but are so strapped right now all we can donate is our gift of peace to you all. Fight fight fight
Comment by HannahSusan | 07.30.2009 | 1:36 pm
We’ve never met, but I’m proud of you, Susan and your kids. You may not realise, but your story is helping people all over the world.
Comment by Emily | 07.30.2009 | 2:02 pm
you are all in my thoughts every day.
Comment by Marie | 07.30.2009 | 2:11 pm
I’ve started reading your blog after I read about it on Twitter through Lance Armstrong. I have to say that your blog has become a way for me to take some time off everyday and appreciate the chance I have to be healthy and strong standing side by side with my kids and my husband. All of my thoughts go to you, Susan and your kids. Even though this time is pretty difficult (more than I can ever imagine) I want to tell you to continue what you are doing because you are truly inspiring and helping people from all around the world.
Comment by dinglearm | 07.30.2009 | 2:17 pm
Elden: I was one of the hundreds of people who offered their help….you answered…..my donation is on its way.
You have two wonderful young gentlemen for sons!
Richard Pollock-Nelson
Comment by db | 07.30.2009 | 2:51 pm
Elden, you’re an amazing guy with an amazing family. Keep doing what you’re doing.
Comment by Mandy From KS | 07.30.2009 | 3:19 pm
You have many things to be proud of yourself for and your family. Stay strong.
Comment by AtOurGates | 07.30.2009 | 3:39 pm
I’m a bit late to this blog – but I – like about everyone else here – seem to be deeply moved by every post. In addition to the donation link – I’ve always heard that the most income most bloggers get from their blogs is through merchandise sales – and I’d love to support that way, but Fatty’s link to purchase merch seems to be kicking back a 404 not found. Any alternate avenues?
Prayers, Karma, Thoughts, and Intense Gratefulness For Your Sharing / Writing.
Comment by P. Hinton | 07.30.2009 | 3:42 pm
You are a hero Fatty. Ride on!!
Comment by Martha Spahr | 07.30.2009 | 3:51 pm
You are a very strong person. God bless you, your Susan and your whole family. Our prayers are with you all.
Martha Spahr
Comment by Doris Landry | 07.30.2009 | 3:58 pm
Fatty…I like that…….I am among the thousands that have found my way to you via Lance Armstrong’s tweet. For some reason I was drawn into the TDF this year watching Lance so I became a follower…I am NOT a cyclist…so friends thought I was strange…well that is besides the point!
My mother is a cancer survivor of 15 years; however I have a sister that has been fighting for the last five years three separate cancer diagnoses. I have been extremely touched by your blog, sharing your vulnerability and superior strength throughout this time is certainly an inspiration to all.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as I have made my donation to your team. As many have said, you are not alone.
Ps. your videos are amazing…scary…but amazing
Comment by Kathleen@ForgingAhead | 07.30.2009 | 4:33 pm
I’m impressed that your server handled that spike!
Your boys sound just as wonderful as two kids raised by Susan – oh ok, and you :-) j/k
thanks for continuing to share through these days…
Comment by the inadvertent farmer | 07.30.2009 | 4:45 pm
You and Susan have done a good job raising your boys…it will serve them well and they will make the world a better place, thanks, Kim
Comment by Lloyd | 07.30.2009 | 5:10 pm
Elden, despite going through cancer battles with both of my parents, my brother, my wife, her father and her sister, I still can’t imagine what you’re going through. Stay strong, brother. (BTW, my brother’s cancer recently returned, and, unlike a certain Fatty we know, his wife’s reaction was ‘that’s it, you’ve ruined my life’, and she’s filing for a divorce.) I guess it’s easier to walk away than to stay and fight. You’re justifiably proud, Elden… of yourself and your kids. Keep fighting the fight; we’re all here pulling for all of you.
Comment by Dennis Pyritz, RN | 07.30.2009 | 6:11 pm
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Take care, Dennis
Comment by Anne | 07.30.2009 | 6:19 pm
when i was 14/15 i watched my mom die of cancer. i read your blog through that teenagers eyes almost 16 years later. and at the same time i try to imagine my dad’s struggle taking care of the love of his life. you are amazing. and your sons are amazing. and they will be fine. forever changed, but fine. i’m impressed with your honesty with them and their ability to face their mother’s struggles. i can’t say that i was so brave. different circumstances, but i wish i had been braver.
love to you and your whole family.
Comment by Kimberly | 07.30.2009 | 7:50 pm
I’m a two-time cancer survivor (ovarian and uterine) and I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this. Hang in there.
Comment by MVSC | 07.30.2009 | 8:21 pm
Hang in there, FC. Thank you for sharing this challenging and tormenting (and incredibly well written) journey with many, many others.
Comment by Chad | 07.30.2009 | 9:09 pm
Thanks to Lance’s tweet I have been inspired by you to be a better man, ride harder and more often, give back, have hope, remember we are are all it it together, and fight like your amazing wife. Namaste brother. We’ll beat this! Thank you! My thougts, prayers and efforts are with you!
Comment by John | 07.30.2009 | 9:18 pm
Hey man,
I don’t think I know you – but I might… In any case, I used to live in Flagstaff and am now in Portland. Your writing and what you are doing are amazing – I cannot begin to fathom what you are going through so i won’t bother. What I will do though, is personally invite you to come and race the CycloCross Single Speed World Championships here in Portland, OR. You get here and I’ll take care of the rest – love it if you could come – you deserve it.
John
Comment by Kim | 07.30.2009 | 10:05 pm
I am not surprised by what your sons are doing for they are the product of a loving father and mother. I too follow your story because of a tweet by Lance. Because I follow I am a better person and will try harder in the fight against cancer.!
Comment by Jim | 07.30.2009 | 10:07 pm
I’d been reading your blog for 18 months, but havent been by in some 3 or 4 months…maybe deep down I couldnt bear to find out what has been happening. I am saddened by Susan’s slide, but heartened by your words, strength, and your rightly proud pedestal-raising of your kids.
You are a Great (capital G!) support team for Susan. And your extended support and readership is a credit to your tireless work.
Comment by George G. | 07.30.2009 | 9:42 am
Elden,
I hope to get the chance to meet you some day to shake your hand.
Ditto, my man, ditto.
Jim
Comment by Linda | 07.30.2009 | 10:31 pm
Susan loves you! Your boys are doing what comes naturally when true love is involved. Keep on loving!
Comment by Heidi Kubler | 07.30.2009 | 10:56 pm
Hi Elden,
I just met you (via your blog). You are a hero to your Susan and your kids. Live strong and WIN SUSAN!
Ciao,
Heidi Kubler – mommy, winner, and cyclistaholic
San Diego, Ca and
Zurich, Switzerland
Comment by ann | 07.30.2009 | 11:06 pm
Have you heard the statement “Like father, like son”? You are raising compassionate and resilient young men, who are rising to the occasion they face. It’s not so remarkable when one considers their parents.
Comment by Jana Jensen | 07.31.2009 | 1:15 am
I brought my mother home to live out her final months with me and my children. I have to tell you that allowing me to care for her was my mother’s greatest gift to me and my children. She required constant care and attention and while this was diffucult on so many levels it was extremely rewarding. My children learned was unconditional love looks like and feels like. My prayers and admiration are with you and your family.
Comment by Wade | 07.31.2009 | 2:38 am
all of a sudden cycling doesn’t seem so important anymore. All my best and stay strong.
Comment by Maggie | 07.31.2009 | 3:08 am
Your resilience, love, care & attention shine out in your words. I’m new to your site – thanks to Lance Armstrong’s twitter, but my thoughts are with you during this difficult transition. Words are difficult to find & aren’t enough to express my feelings. Cancer is such an insiduous disease & we need to do all we can to beat it. Susan will be so happy to be at home in the peace & comfort of familiar surroundings & with her loved ones close by. Give her & your sons all the love & attention you can & don’t feel you have failed in any way, don’t worry about losing it sometimes, you’re only human & you are coping brilliantly. Live Strong. Peace be with you.
Maggie
England
Comment by lak1 | 07.31.2009 | 4:53 am
Thanks for blogging, your sharing of your burden and coping and cycling means a lot for me. I don t know what the outcome for me will be but the fact that you carry on somehow means a lot as my biggest fear is causing my husband pain if he had to face what you face. Your tale makes me realise that whatever will be will be and humans just adapt.
Comment by Richard Irvine | 07.31.2009 | 5:21 am
Inspiring stuff – I have enough trouble finding time to go out on my bike and my biggest worry is a credit card bill that just won’t leave me alone.
You’re teaching us all a lesson, keep it up.
Comment by Kathy | 07.31.2009 | 5:53 am
Elden,
I found your site from “Undomestic” my niece, who is battling the same type of cancer. I also lost a very good friend to the same cancer in 2007. For all of you Rockie fans, she was your “Angel in the Outfield” in 2007. I will gladly donate in Susan’s name and will (with your permission) where her name on my shirt for the next cancer walk alongside my niece’s and my friend’s name. My very best wishes for you and your family.
Comment by Majid | 07.31.2009 | 6:57 am
Elden, I emailed you I hope you got it. No words will ever describe my Admiration and Respect for you. Your unconditional love for your wife is a blessing which people all over the world have seen first hand through your blog, and you will have touched millions and millions of people and taught them the meaning of love.
You and your family are in my thoughts, my brother.!!
Comment by Len | 07.31.2009 | 7:35 am
Eldon
Reading your blog has brought back so many memories of my sons fight against this hideous disease.Unfortunately he didn’t make it.Susan and yourself are an inspiration to all who have taken the time to read your blog.You should be justifiably proud of all of your children as they are truly special.I can not begin to imagine what you are going through.My thoughts prayers @ love to you and your family
Comment by Skippy | 07.31.2009 | 8:16 am
I get tears every time I read this blog. Not sure how you write this without drowning your keyboard. You are a braver man than I. And yes, those do sound like teenage boys to me. The kind who love their mom.
Comment by CL | 07.31.2009 | 8:23 am
Found you linked from DrunkCyclist by Snake. Wow! I am overwhealmed and inspired by your courage and relentless love. You will be in my thoughts and maybe even prayers as moved as I am feeling right now(not a very religious guys as yet)! Thank you for enduring and sharing, it means the world to a lot of people. Chris, Flagstaff
Comment by Dee | 07.31.2009 | 9:39 am
You and your family are amazing and an inspiration. Praying for you daily…
Comment by cyclingeurope | 07.31.2009 | 9:55 am
I loved the comment from BoucyTem who is a friend of your sons. He said he surrounds himself with other teenagers who are like your son – this was his comment below:
“Also, yeah, that actually does sound like some teenage boys to me. All the friends I picked in high school were like that and I myself try my best to be as helpful as possible. (There’s already enough bad stuff going on, my time’s better spent trying to help out rather than making it worse)”
- this made me so happy to read and gave me such encouragement for our world we live in, knowing that there are some amazing young people out there, who come from some amazing parents! I do wish there were more like him/them! Several of the people commenting have pointed out that there are indeed teenage boys out there who are this compassionate. It’s people like him, your sons, and you Elden, who make this world the wonderful place it is!
We haven’t heard from you yet today (Friday) – I’m saying some extra prayers for you and your family today.
@vivavelo
Comment by Rachelle | 07.31.2009 | 9:57 am
Stay strong. Treasure the time you have together and know how many people are sending love and support to you, Susan and your family. You have inspired me to do more and I am now a proud member of the Live Strong Army!
Comment by Robin | 07.31.2009 | 11:51 am
Cancer Sucks and I am proud to be a part of the Challenge to Conquer Cancer. Greenville,SC to Austin – $5700 raised.
My heart breaks for you and your family BUT know what you are doing is changing the fight against cancer!!!
Comment by Pat in Oak Ridge | 07.31.2009 | 11:52 am
yeah, it’s Friday afternoon and we haven’t had a post in a couple of days now. Hope all is well. We’re praying for you Fatty, Susan and children.
Comment by Sonoma | 07.31.2009 | 1:19 pm
Hi, Fatty, miss your blogging. Even though difficult to read, it’s even more difficult realizing why you cannot blog. Positive thoughts going Susan’s way.
Kathy
Comment by Haven (used to be Kt) | 07.31.2009 | 4:37 pm
Eldon, you rock. Your sons are can’t help but be compassionate and wonderful since they have you as a role model.
Sounds like the good vibes made it– I’m sending more out to Susan as I type this. And to you and your kids.
Stay strong, Fearless Leader. We’re with you in this fight.
Comment by Spruce Hill | 07.31.2009 | 6:25 pm
Hang in there! So great that your boys can spend time with their Mom! That is what every Mom would want. You are so strong. Sending many prayers you family’s way!
Comment by Frances Windisch | 08.1.2009 | 6:01 pm
Eldon, you are a very strong and caring man. Caring for Susan and your children during this difficult time is such a wonderful gift that you are giving your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Comment by Vivienne | 08.1.2009 | 6:04 pm
You are amazing and are doing a great job. What you’re sharing with all of us is very personal and I appreciate the generosity behind it. I’m sure it does you good to vent, and to know there are people out there supporting you and praying for you and your family, but you should also know it is a gift to us. I am grateful for the chance I have to read it and be reminded daily of what is truly important in this life. Thank you.
Comment by Lisa | 08.1.2009 | 11:05 pm
I just started cycling so I can participate in next year’s Livestrong Challenges, as well as other cancer-fighting events. I’m tired of seeing good people suffer and I’m tired of losing loved ones to this disease. If I can support cancer research by pedalling 100 miles or waddling through a 5K, I’ll do it. In the meantime, I ordered a couple boxes of the yellow wristbands (www.livestrong.com). Let’s get these on our friends and family. Maybe even convince a few to join the Challenge. For Susan, for those we love, maybe for ourselves, let’s do whatever it takes to cure this miserable disease. Much love to you, Fatty, to your family, and to all those affected by cancer.
Comment by Trish Edington | 08.2.2009 | 4:25 pm
I am praying for you and your family. I am in the same situation as you are but I am the daughter taking care of her mother. My mom had breast cancer in 1976 and lived a wonderful life till 18 months ago when after 33 yrs a single breast cancer cell found it”s way to her brain. Today she is laying only 10 feet from me sleeping which she does about 20-22 hours a day. She has fever blisters on her lips and tounge and is only in pain if we touch her. I found reading your blog helpful in that I didn’t feel like our family was alone in this battle. We have been blessed to have had our mom for 33 yrs after the diagnosis of breast cancer. I too have a 14 yr old who stays with me when it’s my turn to be with my mom and his summer break has been taken away by this dreadful thing called cancer, but he says “mom don’t worry about it everything will be fine”. He talks and tells his MeMe he loves her when he’s here. Your children are blessed to have a father like you, loving and caring ever so gently for their mom. God Bless You
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Comment by Robin Price | 08.6.2009 | 2:16 pm
I lost a beloved sisterinlaw to breast cancer a few years ago. You and Susan and the boys are in our prayers.
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